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How to Deal with Anger: 10 Steps that Transform Anger into Compassionate Connection

How to Deal with Anger: 10 Steps that Transform Anger into Compassionate Connection

Ever been in an argument with your partner that spiraled out of control?

Maybe it felt merely unpleasant in the beginning. But then it somehow quickly transformed itself into a painful mass of emotion heaped upon emotion? Usually when this happens, it is because we have been injecting painful experiences from the past into the mix.

 
A spiral of pain

And in general, we aren’t trained to deal with stuff like this in a constructive way. No wonder some couples are not able to resolve their issues. The problem remains unresolved, and is added to the stack of emotions that will be taken uot of the closet the next time a fight occurs.

 

How to deal with anger and convert it into understanding and connection

Marshall Rosenberg (the fouder of Non Violent Communication) wrote “Ten Steps that Transform Anger into Compassionate Connection”.

 

I especially loved his conclusion at the end:

“Every minute, every one of us is alive with needs and values, seeking expression. You love to live in harmony with your values, and you love to contribute to others’ experience of harmony, when you can do so with no element of coercion involved.

Moment by moment, with honesty and empathy, you can meet your needs, and bring your values to life. Practicing these 10 Steps you truly can transform anger into compassionate connections.”

 

Read the full article here.

 

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3 Signs You Are a Perfectionist

3 Signs You Are a Perfectionist

Do you consider yourself a perfectionist? How would you even know if you are one? It’s easy to spot in others. But usually we have difficulty observing it in ourselves.   Contents0.1 The signs you are a perfectionist0.2 1. you think in black and white0.3 2. you spend an endless amount of time perfecting something0.4 3. you… Continue Reading

How to Overcome Perfectionism

How to Overcome Perfectionism

A perfectionist lives with an endless list of internal rules. This is his/her way to have a feeling of control over life. But underneath that lies the mother of all negative emotions: fear. Perfectionists fear that whatever they do is not good enough, they fear making mistakes. In short they fear that they ARE not good enough. Perfectionists feel like chronic failures and… Continue Reading

Is Perfectionism Good or Bad?

Is Perfectionism Good or Bad?

Being a perfectionist looks good to the outside world: people have the impression that you’re working really hard and they think highly of you because it seems you want to deliver quality. As Celestine Chua says on her blog PersonalExcellence.co: “On the surface, being a perfectionist appears to be aspirational. Many renowned and accomplished sports athletes, celebrities, singers and… Continue Reading

Turmeric (and curcumin) to prevent and treat cancer?

Turmeric (and curcumin) to prevent and treat cancer?

Curcumin, the main component found in turmeric, has anti-inflammatory, anti-viral, anti-bacterial, and anticancer properties. And curcumin has probably the most evidence-based literature supporting its use against cancer among all nutrients. Best of all, curcumin appears to be safe in the treatment of all cancers. Curcumin: inhibits the propagation of tumor cells decreases inflammation inhibits the transformation of… Continue Reading

Do Isochronic Tones Work?

Do Isochronic Tones Work?

Do isochronic tones work at all? Many results and benefits are being claimed from using isochronic tones (and brainwave entrainment in general). From stress reduction, relaxation, deeper meditation, over increased memory, better concentration and more creativity, to altered states of consciousness (including lucid dreaming). Many people however find it hard to believe that these results are possible. Is… Continue Reading

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My name is Tom And I’ve got a problem: at the moment, I feel like I’m squandering my life. Wasting my life’s energy. I feel there’s so much more… So much more potential inside me that hasn’t been brought to the surface yet. That I’m not really living.   It’s frustrating Here I am, working in some silly… Continue Reading

Isochronic Tones

Isochronic Tones

It’s night. A fire is blazing and flickering. There is chanting and drumming… Imagine a traditional tribe engaged in a ritual. People are entering into a trance state because of the repetitive rhythmic patterns. Various tribes all over the planet have, or have had, similar ceremonies, enabling people to reach such states. Isochronic tones are… Continue Reading

Photonic Beats that can influence heart & brain?

Photonic Beats that can influence heart & brain?

Light patterns generated by a computer were able to control the speed of the cardiac waves, their direction as well as the orientation of these spirals – in real time – and that is something that never been shown for waves in a living system before.This does involve some genetic manipulation – about which I am… Continue Reading

Getting older doesn’t mean you have to deteriorate

Contents0.1 Getting older doesn’t mean you actually have to suffer from all kinds of age related problems like:0.2 But that’s what people believe1 Oh, but it runs in my family!1.1 That tell you what to expect at every age2 Your beliefs are powerful3 Getting older without deteriorating3.1 That’s what runs in your family3.2 And know this:3.3… Continue Reading

50 Secrets of the Worlds Longest Living People

Today’s book of the day 50 Secrets of the World’s Longest Living People by Sally Beare examines the lifestyles of 5 traditional people groups who are famous for their long healthy lives (many of them are still working, exercising, and actively participating in life well past age 100). Being a nutritionist, she studied people from Okinawa, Japan;… Continue Reading

Research reveals we could be living to 150

The world’s leading expert on aging has explained why we could be living to 150 and very soon. “I wouldn’t be surprised if people ended up living to be a thousand” – Dr. Bill Andrews.   Those are bold words But apparently, it’s all based on Nobelprize winning research. He’s discovered a chemical which basically stops our… Continue Reading

Does creativity fade with old age?

Are we doomed to lose our creativity while we get older? Some people say we do. They declare that it’s a matter of “using it while you have it”. A few examples are the writers Philip Roth and Doris Lessing, who felt that an end has come to their energy and creativity at a certain stage in… Continue Reading

What are you struggling with?

What’s your #1 single biggest challenge, when it comes to improving the quality of your life right now? Answer here (and we’ll do our best to include the answer to your question on this blog): Continue Reading

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The test that predicts how well a child will be able to read

The test that predicts how well a child will be able to read

Sounds like science fiction, but in reality it does come really close to a crystal  ball: Neurobiologist Nina Kraus believes she and her team at Northwestern University have found a way — a half-hour test — to predict kids’ literacy skill long before they’re old enough to begin reading. When I first read the study… Continue Reading

Yerba Mate Tea: Can it Help You Lose Weight?

Yerba Mate Tea: Can it Help You Lose Weight?

A lot of herbal teas are said to contain properties that help induce weight loss. Yerba Mate (also called ‘mate’) is one of them. But how effective is mate really?   Yerba Mate and weight loss research I came accross an article that shows the results of 3 weight loss studies that researched the weight loss properties of… Continue Reading

How to Prevent Macular Degeneration?

How to Prevent Macular Degeneration?

Macular degeneration is a condition of the eyes, in which people experience loss of vision in the center of the visual field. It is usually age-related: the older you get, the more risk you run on getting it. It is a major cause of blindness and visual impairment in older adults (+50 years). These pictures… Continue Reading

Transcranial direct current stimulation (tDCS) works sometimes

Transcranial direct current stimulation (tDCS) works sometimes

Transcranial direct current stimulation (tDCS) is quite the trend these days. That’s because it appears relatively safe as well as being cheap. You could even build a DIY device at your home if you wanted to tune up your neurons to get smarter on command. Or do you? A new study from the The Journal of Neuroscience… Continue Reading

How do Binaural Beats work? (The actual power behind Binaural Beats)

How do Binaural Beats work? (The actual power behind Binaural Beats)

How efficient are binaural beats really? It is uncertain that a lot of “entrainment” in the brain is being produced when you listen to binaural beats. The scientific research shows little evidence. Some studies find effects, other do not. And even if there is a actual physical effect on the brain, it’ll probably be small. Dave Siever… Continue Reading

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Electrical Brain Stimulation Beats Caffeine

Electrical Brain Stimulation Beats Caffeine

Military analysts spend hours poring over images to identify enemy targets. Their task isn’t suited to automation, so that’s why it’s really important to find out if there are ways to help them focus for a longer period of time. Contents0.1 Research is esssential1 Military staff put to the test1.1 Transcranial Direct Current Stimulation (tDCS)2 The results2.1 Sustained… Continue Reading

The Wim Hof Method in Detail (& its Benefits to you)

The Wim Hof Method in Detail (& its Benefits to you)

How the Wim Hof Method was born…     Contents1 Wim Hof’s pain (and becoming world famous)2 Working together with science2.1 Three minute Wim Hof video presentation3 Increasing your health & inner power3.1 It’s not about the cold3.2 Climbing Kilimanjaro4 Who is the Wim Hof method for?5 Using this method to heal yourself5.1 Method similar to the… Continue Reading

Exercises for Parkinson’s Disease Sufferers

Exercises for Parkinson’s Disease Sufferers

It’s not because you have Parkinson’s Disease that you’re doomed to suffer from it. You can also take action to revitalize your body again. Do a little (or a lot) each day. Here is a PDF by the Parkinson Society Canada showing exercises for: Posture Flexibility Stretching Strengthening   Check it out here: Exercises for People… Continue Reading

Reversing Parkinson’s Disease Using the Wim Hof Method

Reversing Parkinson’s Disease Using the Wim Hof Method

Hans Spaans has been diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease in 2004. His condition went from bad to worse, up until the point where he had to resort to the maximum allowed amount of medication.   Contents1 This situation had the potential to break his spirits1.1 Parkinson’s disease perspectives are bleak1.2 This is exactly what happened to Hans2 Hans has known an… Continue Reading

Can You Ease Brain Fatigue With a Walk in the Park?

Can You Ease Brain Fatigue With a Walk in the Park?

The idea is not new. Many people have the feeling that in green spaces, such as parks or plazas filled with trees, we have calmer minds and that, afterwards, we leave the park with improved concentration. But even though we all “know” this, it’s hard to “prove” it. Not that most people need proof, but urban… Continue Reading

How to Make Beet Kvass (+ Beet Kvass Benefits)

How to Make Beet Kvass (+ Beet Kvass Benefits)

Imagine this: a cholera epidemic is raging in Moscow. And before these russian soldiers go out onto the streets, they take a ladleful each of “a particular red drink”. In doing so, they feel invigorated, and have no fear of being infected.   Immune booster This story comes from the Russian writer Tolstoy (who was a keen observer of 19th century Russian life).… Continue Reading

How Meditation Strengthens Your Willpower

  Procrastination. Resisting cravings and desires. Experiences that are all too common.   Contents1 What really holds us back from reaching our goals?2 But you can learn willpower3 Willpower is a matter of physiology, not just psychology4 How meditation changes your brain What really holds us back from reaching our goals? According to a 2010 survey “Stress in America”, the biggest… Continue Reading

Does watching horror movies strengthen your immune system?

Does watching horror movies strengthen your immune system?

There’s this strange study done where 32 people were exposed to a horror film. Different biological factors were measured before and after the viewing. The findings were that, among other things, their heart rate and white blood cell count went up. White blood cells enable people to fight disease and repair the body. The amount… Continue Reading

Why Binaural Beats don’t Work as Well as These Alternatives

Why Binaural Beats don’t Work as Well as These Alternatives

Binaural beats are a popular way of training your brain to produce brainwaves of a certain frequency.     Contents1 Each frequency comes with its own “brain state”2 Brainwave entrainment by binaural beats2.1 How are binaural beats produced?3 But how effective are binaural beats really?3.1 The Gateway Program4 Maybe a slight entrainment effect from binaural beats?5 Binaural… Continue Reading

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Do you feel like this is you? You have the impression that what you’re doing in your life is not getting you anywhere. That you’re just following a path laid out for you by others, and that really doesn’t satisfy your soul at all. You have a deeper longing. Sometimes even, it almost feels feel like you’re squandering… Continue Reading

What is Heart Rate Variability (HRV) and why is it important?

What is Heart Rate Variability (HRV) and why is it important?

How easily do you cope with challenges and stress in your life? No, in fact, don’t tell me. I can actually predict your answer. Well, I can predict your answer if I could take one specific and easy measurement from your body.   Contents1 Your ‘adaptive reserves’1.1 Easy to measure2 What is Heart Rate Variability?3 Why is HRV important?3.1 Creating… Continue Reading

The Best Activity to Increase your Heart Rate Variability (HRV)

The Best Activity to Increase your Heart Rate Variability (HRV)

Todd Becker of gettingstronger.org has his own view on what has the most impact on his Heart Rate Variability. He has experimented with different activities that lowered or increased HRV: “Based on a review of numerous studies and extensive personal experimentation, I’ve learned some surprising things about what tends to raise or lower HRV. And I’ve found… Continue Reading

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